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We Were On A Break! | Classic Debates

“We were on a break!!” is probably one of the most infamous running gags that F.R.I.E.N.D.S ever did – so let’s decide if they were, or not…

Estimated Reading Time: 3min

If you’ve seen Friends, you don’t really need a rundown but here it is anyway:

Six friends who live in NYC navigate their twenties together. Love interests and drama (of course), careers, and of course coffee and Central Perk. 

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Okay, now that we have that out of the way, the debate of ‘we were on a break’ comes from the romance between Ross and Rachel.

They were dating, and when they started arguing about Ross’ jealousy and insecurity in their relationship regarding Mark (a work colleague of Rachel’s), and her new job taking a lot of her time…. they took a break?

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Okay, so technically Rachel yelled at Ross that ‘maybe’ they should take a break from “us”. Instead of staying and discussing what she meant about that and why she thought so, Ross just leaves without a word. Immaturity aside, it would have been a pretty hurtful thing to hear, so we’ll give him that.

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Distraught at having thought he lost his girlfriend, Ross heads out to a bar and starts drinking with Joey and Chandler (a horrible idea really) and ends up sleeping with a girl from the copy place. When Rachel calls the next morning to apologise for her side of the fight, and confirm she doesn’t want to take a break (just a heat of the moment comment really), he panics and tries to keep the dalliance from her.

When she finds out though, his only defence was that he thought they had broken up. Unfortunately for Rachel though, it was enough of a betrayal that she couldn’t see their relationship the same way, and they break up (for the first time… these guys DEFINED on again-off again).

Okay, so all exposition aside, WERE THEY ON A BREAK?

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As far as I’m concerned – No. They weren’t.

Ross didn’t even confirm what ‘MAYBE we should take a break from us’ meant. He just left the room and assumed the worst. He 1 million percent should have confirmed that was what she thought. There was absolutely no clarification of what that was.

Second, even if it was a break – it doesn’t mean jump into the sack with someone a few hours later. That’s just a stupid reaction which (obviously) won’t end well. If someone really does want to take a break, it should be a time for you both to reflect on the relationship and what you want out of it – NOT A HALL PASS.

Thirdly, neither of them officially agreed that they should ‘take a break’ – it was just a SUGGESTION. Rachel said ‘maybe’ which is clearly a potential that she is raising. When Ross didn’t continue with the conversation and ask any numerous questions like:

  • Do you WANT to take a break?
  • Why do you want to take a break?
  • Why do you think we should take a break?
  • What does ‘take a break’ mean for us?
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Well, do you agree with me? Maybe not… share why below!

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Dawson Vs Pacey | Classic Debates

Dawson’s Creek entertained us 90s babies for 6 seasons, and we got the DRAMA! There were numerous hook ups, but none so infamous as ‘Dawson’ vs ‘Pacey’.

Estimated Reading Time: 3min

Okay, quick rundown if you didn’t get into Dawson’s Creek before:

Bunch of teens live in a small town at a creek. Done.

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Okay, there’s a little more to it than that. Love, life, and of course, dating each other in a triangle/circle/square. Like all teen dramas, we see the four main characters (Dawson, Pacey, Joey and Jen) all navigating how to grow up.

Joey and Dawson have been ‘besties’ for their whole lives and there’s obvious tension there…. then comes Pacey. The ‘Enemies to Lovers’ trope is hard with this one. Originally starting out disliking each other, they end up with feelings for the other instead.

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There was a lot of back and forth, on and off again, drama drama drama with all the characters and how they all jumped into each others pants (okay, maybe just ‘beds’ for inappropriately aged sleepovers). The BIGGEST of course, being Joey and choosing between Dawson and Pacey.

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Reasons To Pick Dawson:

  • They’ve known each other their whole lives;
  • They have obvious chemistry;
  • They’ve experienced practically everything together;
  • They clearly care about each other (and have for a really long time);
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Reasons To Pick Pacey

  • They also have known each other basically their whole lives;
  • They also have obvious chemistry;
  • They balance out each others personalities and compliment the other well;
  • They understand each other’s home/life situations well
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Okay, here come the spoilers… who Joey picks in the very end:

I know that was a very short rundown of the basic points as to why each guy should be the pick for Joey to end up with, but that’s what you get. So, who does Joey pick in the end? Well, she has highs and lows with both guys, and there’s a lot of ‘finding herself’ while being with neither of them… in the end though, Joey picks

PACEY WITTER

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Who do YOU think Joey should have picked in the end? I agree with her choice (Team Pacey all the way!!), but how do you see it?

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Label, Label, Pick a Label

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I’ve been labelled, I’ve labelled others and others, I know, have labelled themselves.

We live in a world full of labels.
I’m smart, i’m stupid, i’m pretty, i’m ugly.
I’m tired, i’m happy, i’m sad, i’m depressed.
I’m poor, i’m rich, i’m alone, i’m a loser.

So what label have you (or has someone else) attached to your self worth? What have people labelled you? Do you find that you stay in that label?

Labels can be dangerous. We can cling to them and stay there. We can ignore any positive labels that we’re given after that (like no, you’re not stupid – you’re so smart!) and just linger in the ones that feel strangely comfortable, or easy to believe.
Words matter. What you say, or someone says to you Matters. More than we like to believe, and more than we think.
I’ve had labels spoke over me (and to myself by me) like Anxious, tired, alone, sad, heavy, fat, not good enough but i’ve come to realise that these labels are NOT where I want to live. I don’t want to spend time believe those things about myself.

Labels can be broken (that’s the good news)!
You can break out of labels which have been spoken into your life.
We need to CHOOSE to focus on the labels that matter. The ones we should stick to – from people we love, trust and from God.
Labels like, we are forever loved, stronger than we could expect, saved, redeemed, happy, hopeful, always moving forward…

The list of labels which can improve our self worth, our hearts and our lives are almost endless – you just have to know where to find them, and to believe that they’re true. Even when they don’t feel true.
I remind myself all the time of some ‘positive’ labels, especially those days when I don’t believe them.
Your perspective of yourself, your life and your worth can change things!
You can change things!

Cling to the positive, cling to the TRUTH, and cling to each other.

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Christy Grace